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In his second letter to the church at Corinth, St. Paul points out that the principal work of Jesus was reconciliation:

“Whoever is in Christ is a new creation: the old things have passed away; behold, new things have come. And all this is from God, who has reconciled us to himself through Christ and given us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting their trespasses against them and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.…We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.” 2 Cor. 5:17–21 (NABRE)

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In Catholic theology, the concepts of forgiveness and reconciliation, while closely related, possess distinct meanings and implications, particularly within the context of the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation. Forgiveness, in its essence, refers to the remission of sins through divine grace, whereas reconciliation encompasses the restoration of a broken relationship with God and the ecclesial community [1]. This distinction is crucial for a comprehensive understanding of the salvific work of Christ and the role of the Church in mediating divine grace.

Forgiveness as Divine Remission

Forgiveness, fundamentally, is an act of divine mercy through which God pardons sins committed against Him [7]. This remission is made possible through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, who atoned for the sins of humanity, offering redemption and the possibility of a renewed relationship with the divine [10]. As Pope John Paul II noted, the remission of sin is “a completely free and undeserved gift, a newness of life which we could never earn,” emphasizing the gratuitous nature of divine forgiveness [7].

Scriptural Basis for Forgiveness

The scriptural basis for understanding forgiveness is evident in the teachings of Jesus, who proclaimed the forgiveness of sins and entrusted this power to his apostles. In the Gospel of John (20:21-23), Jesus grants the apostles the authority to forgive or retain sins, underscoring the divine delegation of this power [1] [4]. This passage highlights that forgiveness is not self-granted but is received through the mediation of Christ and the Church.

The Role of Grace

Grace plays a pivotal role in the process of forgiveness, preceding and enabling human repentance and conversion [3]. As Pope Francis articulated, grace “always precedes us and takes on the face of the mercy that effects our reconciliation and pardon,” illustrating that divine initiative is paramount in the forgiveness of sins [3].

Reconciliation as Relational Restoration

Reconciliation, in contrast to the individual act of forgiveness, involves the restoration of a broken relationship, both with God and with the community of believers [1]. Sin, in Catholic theology, is understood not merely as a personal transgression but also as an offense against the Church, the Body of Christ. Therefore, reconciliation necessitates the reintegration of the penitent into full communion with the Church.

Ecclesial Dimension of Reconciliation

The ecclesial dimension of reconciliation is constitutive of the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation, emphasizing that reconciliation with God is intrinsically linked to reconciliation with the Church [1]. As the Rite of Penance underscores, the sacrament highlights the victory of Christ over sin and calls individuals from sin to conversion through the celebration of penance [10].

Overcoming Individualism

A nuanced understanding of reconciliation requires overcoming individualistic interpretations, recognizing that the entire Church participates in the conversion of sinners through prayer, fraternal correction, and charitable support. This communal aspect highlights the solidarity among the People of God, where reconciliation restores the unity damaged by sin.

The Sacrament of Penance:
Integrating Forgiveness and Reconciliation

The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation serves as the privileged means through which forgiveness and reconciliation are integrated, offering a pathway for the baptized to return to God and the Church [9]. This sacrament involves several key components: contrition, confession, penance, and absolution [4].

Actions of the Penitent

The actions of the penitent — repentance, confession, and the intention to make reparation — are essential for the efficacious reception of the sacrament [4]. Repentance involves a sincere sorrow for sins committed, while confession entails the honest disclosure of sins to a priest, who acts as the mediator of divine grace.

The Role of the Priest

The priest, acting in persona Christi, imparts absolution, forgiving sins in the name of God [1]. This sacramental absolution is not merely a symbolic gesture but an efficacious act that remits sins and restores the penitent to a state of grace.

Conclusion: Implications for the Faithful

In conclusion, while forgiveness and reconciliation are interconnected, they represent distinct aspects of the salvific process. Forgiveness denotes the divine remission of sins, while reconciliation signifies the restoration of a broken relationship with God and the Church. The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation serves as the integral means through which these two realities converge, offering the faithful a path to renewed communion with God and the ecclesial community. A deeper understanding of these concepts can lead to a more profound appreciation of the sacrament and its transformative power in the lives of believers.

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[1] Apostolic Penitentiary, Address of Card. James Francis Stafford on the occasion of the Annual General Conference of the ‘Society for Catholic Liturgy’, “Sacraments of Healing: Reconciliation and Anointing,” September 21, 2006.
[2] Pope John Paul II, May 30, 1982, Mass in the Cathedral of Liverpool, §2.
[3] Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, The New Evangelisation and the Sacrament of Penance, (2015 AD), “Part 1: The Renewal of Faith and Doctrine; 1. The Mystery of Reconciliation in the History of Salvation”.
[4] Pope Francis, General Audience of 19 February 2014, §1.
[5] Pope Francis, Apostolic Letter Misericordia et misera, §8, November 20, 2016.
[6] Catechism of the Catholic Church, (1992 AD), In Brief, §1486.

Here Are Some Practical Applications:

1. Embrace Reconciliation in Relationships

• Identify strained relationships: Reflect on relationships in your life where there is tension, misunderstanding, or distance. This could be with family members, friends, colleagues, or even acquaintances.

• Take the initiative: Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. Following St. Paul’s call to be ministers of reconciliation, consider reaching out to the person to initiate a conversation.

• Practice active listening: When you talk, focus on truly hearing and understanding their perspective without interrupting or becoming defensive.

• Seek forgiveness: Be willing to apologize for your part in the conflict, even if you believe you are not entirely at fault.

• Extend forgiveness: Forgive others, mirroring God’s forgiveness of our sins. Holding onto resentment only harms you and hinders reconciliation.

2. Speak the Truth with Integrity

• Be mindful of your words: Before speaking, take a moment to consider whether your words are true, honest, and necessary.

• Avoid exaggeration and half-truths: Commit to speaking the whole truth, even when it is difficult or uncomfortable.

• Let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no: As Jesus instructs in the Gospel , be straightforward and reliable in your commitments.

• Practice honesty in small things: Integrity in small matters builds trust and strengthens your character.

• Be truthful in your online interactions: In a digital age where it’s easy to hide behind anonymity, commit to honesty and authenticity in your online communications.

3. Live in Gratitude and Service

• Start a gratitude journal: Each day, write down three things for which you are grateful. This practice can shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.

• Express appreciation: Make a conscious effort to thank those who help you, whether it’s a family member, friend, or service worker.

• Offer acts of service: Look for opportunities to help others in practical ways, whether it’s volunteering your time, donating to a cause, or simply offering a helping hand to someone in need.

• Practice forgiveness towards yourself: Recognize that everyone makes mistakes. Forgive yourself for your shortcomings and strive to learn from them.

• Reflect on God’s blessings: Take time each day to reflect on the blessings God has bestowed upon you, as the Psalmist encourages. This can deepen your sense of gratitude and strengthen your relationship with God.

4. Cultivate a Life of Consistency and Uprightness

• Align your actions with your beliefs: Ensure that your daily actions reflect your values and beliefs as a Christian.

• Seek accountability: Surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable to your commitments and challenge you to grow in virtue.

• Practice self-reflection: Regularly examine your conscience and identify areas where you can improve.

• Be patient with yourself: Change takes time. Be patient with yourself as you strive to live a life of integrity, and don’t get discouraged by setbacks.

• Pray for guidance: Ask God to guide you in your decisions and actions, and to give you the strength to live a life that is pleasing to Him.
 

How Grace Influences Reconciliation

Grace is essential for reconciliation, as it is the source of spiritual rebirth, sanctification, and the ability to overcome sin [1] [2]. It transforms hearts, enabling individuals to forgive and be reconciled with God and others [3].

• Source of Forgiveness: Grace is the gratuitous gift of God’s own life, infused by the Holy Spirit, that heals the soul of sin [3]. It precedes our actions, offering reconciliation and pardon [4]. God makes His great love known to us when we recognize ourselves as sinners, and grace is stronger than sin, overcoming every form of resistance [4].

• Transformation of the Heart: Grace transforms hearts, allowing individuals to feel God’s love concretely and recognize the need for conversion [5]. It enables people to acknowledge their mistakes and turn away from sin [5].

• Empowerment to Forgive: No one can forgive others without first experiencing forgiveness themselves [5]. Grace empowers individuals to forgive by giving them a taste of God’s compassion [5].

• Sacramental Healing: In the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation, God’s grace is the source of spiritual rebirth and sanctification [1]. This sacrament gives not only God’s forgiveness but also special graces that help overcome temptations and avoid repeating sins [1].

• Restoration of Relationship: Grace restores individuals to God’s favor and joins them in intimate friendship with Him [6]. It heals the wounds of sin and restores the blessings of being a child of God [6].

• Gratitude and Joy: Recognizing God’s gratuitous initiative through grace encourages penitents to approach the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation with joy and gratitude [7]. Gratitude is a sign of God’s presence, and pastors should encourage the faithful to see this sacrament as an act of thanksgiving and hope [7].

• New Beginning: The surpassing power of Christ’s grace, entrusted to human ministers, allows the Church to be constantly reborn and offers each person the hope of a new beginning [8]. The liberating power of the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation, where honest confession is met with God’s merciful pardon and peace, needs to be rediscovered and reappropriated by every Catholic [8].

In summary, grace is the foundation of reconciliation, providing the means for forgiveness, transformation, and the restoration of relationships with God and others [1] [2] [3]. It empowers individuals to turn away from sin, embrace God’s love, and live in peace and harmony [3] [5] [8].

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[1] Pope Francis, Apostolic Letter Misericordia et misera, §8, 11/20/2016.
[2] Pope John Paul II: Message to Cardinal William W. Baum, Major Penitentiary, On the Internal Forum Organized by The Apostolic Penitentiary, §5, 04/01/2000.
[3] Catechism of the Catholic Church, “Part Three: Life in Christ, Section One Man’s Vocation Life in the Spirit, Chapter Three God’s Salvation: Law and Grace, Article 2 Grace and Justification, II. Grace”, §1999, 1992 AD.
[4] Pope John Paul II, To the Bishops of Portugal on their “ad Limina” visit §4, November 30, 1999.
[5] Pope John Paul II, To Bishops of Kenya on their ad Limina visit, §5, December 6, 1982.
[6] Pope John Paul II, 24 November 1986, Lancaster Park in Christchurch - New Zealand, §4.
[7] Pope John Paul II, 30 May 1982, Mass in the Cathedral of Liverpool, §3.
[8] Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops, The Sacrament of Reconciliation: A Theological and Pastoral Reflection for the Ministers of the Sacrament, §18, February 28, 2008.
 

Forgiveness and Reconciliation Are Related
but Distinct Concepts Within Catholic Theology.

Forgiveness is primarily an interior act where one pardons an offense, while reconciliation involves restoring a broken relationship [1] [5] [19.

Here’s a breakdown of their differences:

Forgiveness:

• Definition: Forgiveness is the act of pardoning someone for a wrong they have committed [1] [8]. It is rooted in God’s mercy and love [1] [10].

• Nature: It is primarily an internal and personal process [1] [8]

• Prerequisites: Forgiveness is granted to those who show repentance [7]. God’s forgiveness is always offered, but it requires a sign of repentance from the individual [9].

• Effects: Forgiveness cleanses and renews the heart, bringing peace and preparing individuals to be peacemakers [3] [7]. It heals and recreates the soul, renewing friendship with God and others [7].

• Sacramental Context: In the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation, the compassion of Jesus forgives all sins of which the sinner is truly repentant [7].

Reconciliation

• Definition: Reconciliation is the restoration of friendly relations [1] [5] [19]. It involves overcoming the divisions caused by sin and returning to unity with God and others [5] [19].

• Nature: Reconciliation is both a personal and communal process [4] [5]. It has an ecclesiological dimension, emphasizing reconciliation with both God and the Church [8] [15].

• Prerequisites: It requires welcoming God’s merciful embrace and overcoming resistance caused by sin [2].

• Effects: Reconciliation restores one to God’s grace and joins them in intimate friendship with Him, often followed by peace and serenity [20]. It brings about a “spiritual resurrection,” restoring dignity and the blessings of being a child of God [20].

• Sacramental Context: The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation allows members of the Church who have sinned after baptism to be reconciled with God and renewed in grace [7] [14] [18]. It is a privileged means for cleansing and renewal, offering a personal encounter with Christ [3] [6].

Key Distinctions

• Interior vs. Relational: Forgiveness is an interior disposition, while reconciliation is the restoration of a relationship [1] [5] [19].

• Individual vs. Communal: Forgiveness can be a solitary act, whereas reconciliation often involves a community, especially the Church [4] [5] [8].

• Divine Initiative: God always offers forgiveness, but reconciliation requires a response from the individual to return to Him [2] [9].

The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation

The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation is the means through which the baptized can be reconciled with God and the Church after committing sins [11] [16]. It is a process that includes contrition, confession, absolution, and satisfaction [17]. The priest acts as a channel of mercy, offering forgiveness and counsel [4].

The sacrament emphasizes the importance of acknowledging sins and seeking God’s forgiveness, which leads to reconciliation and peace [3] [8] [10].

In summary, forgiveness is the divine and human act of pardoning an offense, while reconciliation is the restoration of a relationship broken by sin, bringing about a renewed sense of peace and unity with God and the community of believers [1] [5] [19].
 

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[1] Pope Francis, Apostolic Letter Misericordia et misera, §8 November 20, 2016.
[2] International Theological Commission, Doctrinal Document, The Reciprocity between Faith and Sacraments in the Sacramental Economy, §19, March, 03, 2020.
[3] Pope John Paul II, General Audience of 22 September 1999, “Reconciliation.”
[4] Apostolic Penitentiary, Address of Card. James Francis Stafford on the occasion of the Annual General Conference of the ‘Society for Catholic Liturgy,’ “Sacraments of Healing: Reconciliation and Anointing,” September 21, 2006.
[5] Pope Benedict XVI, To participants in the Course on the Internal Forum organized by the Tribunal of the Apostolic Penitentiary, March 7, 2008.
[6] Philip Tartaglia, (Archbishop of Glasgow), Meeting of the European Doctrinal Commissions, The New Evangelisation and the Sacrament of Penance, “Part 1: the Renewal of Faith and Doctrine - 1. The Mystery of Reconciliation in the History of Salvation,” Esztergom, 15 January 2015.
[7] Pope Francis, Jubilee Audience of 30 April 2016: Mercy and reconciliation, April 30, 2016.
[8] Pope John Paul II, 24 November 1986, Lancaster Park in Christchurch - New Zealand.
[9] Pope Francis, Holy Mass on the liturgical feast of Divine Mercy, 24 April 2022.
[10] Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, “Circular Letter to the Presidents of Episcopal Conferences regarding some sentences and errors arising from the interpretation of the decrees of the Second Vatican Council – Cum oecumenicum concilium, §7, July, 24, 1966.
[11] Pope John Paul II, Letter to Priests for Holy Thursday 2002, §8, March 21, 2003.
[12] Catechism of the Catholic Church, (1992 AD) “IX. The Effects of This Sacrament,” §1468.
[13] International Theological Commission, Select Questions on the Theology of God the Redeemer, (1995 AD), “Part IV: Systematic Perspectives - C, The World under Redeeming Grace; Humanity under the Sign of Redemption, Reconciliation, §56.”
[14] Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, The New Evangelisation and the Sacrament of Penance, (2015 AD), “Part 1: The Renewal of Faith and Doctrine, 1. The Mystery of Reconciliation in the History of Salvation.”
[15] Pope John Paul II, To Bishops of Kenya on their ad Limina visit, (December 6, 1982),§5.
[16] Catechism of the Catholic Church (1992 AD,) “II. The Power of the Keys,” §980.
[17 Catechism of the Catholic Church, (1992 AD), “VI. The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation”, §1446.
[18] Catholic Encyclopedia, "The Sacrament of Penance."
 

Can Reconciliation Happen Without Forgiveness?

Reconciliation is very difficult, if not impossible, without forgiveness. Forgiveness is a necessary component for reconciliation, as it addresses the interior disposition needed to mend broken relationships [1] [2].]

Here’s Why Forgiveness is Essential for Reconciliation:

• Overcoming Division: Sin creates division between individuals and between humanity and God [3] [4]. Forgiveness is the remedy for this division, as it involves letting go of resentment and the desire for revenge [1] [2].

• Restoring Relationships: Reconciliation aims to restore unity and friendship [3]. Without forgiveness, the wounds and bitterness from past offenses can hinder the rebuilding of trust and mutual respect [1] [2].

• Conversion of Heart: The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation is an invitation to conversion of heart [5]. This conversion involves acknowledging one’s sins, repenting, and seeking forgiveness [5]. Without this interior change and willingness to forgive, reconciliation remains superficial [5].

• Love and Mercy: Forgiveness is rooted in love and mercy, which are essential for reconciliation [1] [2]. Reconciliation requires a willingness to extend compassion and understanding, mirroring God’s mercy towards sinners [1] [2].

• Sacramental Grace: In the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation, God’s forgiveness is the source of spiritual rebirth and sanctification [6]. This grace helps individuals overcome temptations and avoid repeating past sins [6]. Without forgiveness, the healing and transformative power of the sacrament cannot be fully realized [6].

While forgiveness is a prerequisite for reconciliation, it is important to note that reconciliation is a mutual process that requires effort from all parties involved [3] [4]. It involves not only forgiving the offender but also seeking to understand their perspective and working together to rebuild the relationship [3] [4].

In summary, while it may be possible to have a superficial restoration of relations without true forgiveness, genuine and lasting reconciliation requires forgiveness as its foundation [1] [2]. Forgiveness opens the door to healing, conversion, and the restoration of unity and friendship [3] [5].

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[1] Pope John Paul II, 24 November 1986, Lancaster Park in Christchurch - New Zealand, §4.
[2] Pope Francis, Apostolic Letter Misericordia et misera, §8, 11/20/2016.
[3] Pope Benedict XVI, Apostolic Exhortation Ecclesia in Medio Oriente, “Part Three — The liturgy and sacramental life,” §81, September 9, 2012.
[4] Pope John Paul II: To a group of Bishops from the United Stated of America on their ad Limina visit (April 15, 1983).
[5] Pope John Paul II, General Audience of 22 September 1999, §5.
[6] Pope Francis, General Audience of 19 February 2014.
 

In the Catholic Context, Forgiveness and Reconciliation Are Distinct Concepts.
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In the Catholic context, forgiveness and reconciliation are distinct concepts. Forgiveness is a spiritual act, a release from condemnation, while reconciliation is a process of restoring broken relationships. While forgiveness is necessary for reconciliation, it doesn’t automatically lead to reconciliation. Reconciliation requires a willingness from both parties to rebuild trust and repair the relationship.

Here’s a more detailed breakdown:

Forgiveness:

Definition:
Forgiveness is a personal and spiritual act of releasing anger, resentment, and the desire for revenge towards someone who has wronged you.
Process:
It involves a conscious choice to move beyond anger and to allow love to triumph over resentment.
Scope:
Forgiveness can occur privately, without involving the offender, and can be a deep, personal process of healing.

Reconciliation:

Definition:
Reconciliation is the process of restoring a broken relationship to its former state, or to a new, healthier state, through repentance, forgiveness, and a mutual commitment to rebuild trust.
Process:
It requires a willingness from both parties to acknowledge the hurt, apologize (if appropriate), and work towards rebuilding the relationship.
Scope:
Reconciliation involves a two-way street, requiring both the offender and the offended to actively participate in the process.

Key Differences:

Nature:
Forgiveness is a personal choice, while reconciliation is a collaborative effort.
Requirement:
Forgiveness can be a unilateral act, while reconciliation necessitates participation from both sides.
Outcome:
Forgiveness can lead to healing and emotional peace, while reconciliation can lead to restored relationships.

In summary: Forgiveness is the initial step of releasing anger and resentment, while reconciliation is the process of repairing the broken relationship through mutual effort. While forgiveness is essential for reconciliation, it doesn’t automatically guarantee a restored relationship.

"Two Differences between
Forgiveness and Reconciliation"
Vinita Hampton Wright
Ignation Spitituality

 

Sometimes we hesitate to forgive because we think it must automatically include reconciliation. These are two separate processes, and one does not always lead to the other.

1. One person can forgive; it takes two to reconcile.

With God’s help, I have the power to forgive anything. That doesn’t mean that I’m willing to forgive anything or that it will be easy. And sometimes a wrong is so heinous that it can take the rest of my life to forgive completely. But the possibility is there. My capacity to forgive does not depend on anyone else’s behavior or permission. The person I forgive can continue to be cruel, thoughtless, and relentlessly set against me. But he or she cannot command my spirit to offer or withhold forgiveness. Forgiveness is a spiritual act, which means that, ultimately, I rely on God’s grace to accomplish it. In fact, my own faults and weaknesses will get in the way of my ability to forgive, especially in some situations. But whatever I’m lacking, God can supply. At times my need for God’s assistance is acute, but when I choose to forgive, my effort does not rely on any other person.

Reconciliation is a multiple-person process. When I reconcile with another person, both of us must first ask and/or offer forgiveness. But it must go further than that. Both people choose to do whatever it takes to restore the relationship. One person can be completely willing, but if the other person is not willing, reconciliation is not possible. This means that I can forgive someone for damaging our friendship, but perhaps I don’t feel safe enough to resume the friendship. That might happen later, but for now I will forgive and leave it at that. Or I might forgive and be ready to reconcile, but the other person no longer desires this relationship. Or the other person can forgive me but not want to reconcile; or the other person forgives me but I don’t want to reconcile. It’s worth noting here that some damage occurs in relationships that are out of balance to begin with, such as the friendship in which one person is needy and the other one always comes to the rescue. In such cases, reconciliation — if it should happen at all — will require a complete reconstruction and that only after one or both people have dealt with their individual issues. Reconciliation can be long and painful and messy, but it can also be well worth all the turmoil if the relationship is indeed restored. Sometimes restored relationships are stronger than they were before all the trouble.

2. Forgiveness is an interior discipline; reconciliation is an outward process.

Forgiveness is a private and ongoing discipline of mind, heart, and soul. Actually, forgiveness is one aspect of an overall posture toward others and life itself. If I am judgmental and vindictive in general, forgiveness will be an awkward and difficult change of direction for me. If I hope to forgive specific wrongs others commit against me, then I should be practicing this very day to look at others with openness and compassion, to be slow to place blame, to resist seeking revenge. And I can practice forgiveness without anyone else knowing what is happening inside me. I may be terribly hurt at something another person said, and I know that before I confront that person in any way, I need to choose forgiveness. I might silently work on forgiveness — in my prayer, meditation, talks with a counselor or spiritual director — for days or weeks without talking directly to the person whose words hurt me so. In some cases, I might go through that private process, realize that the wrong wasn’t as blatant or as intentional as I first thought, and then get over it completely without the other person ever knowing about my struggle.

Reconciliation is not private because it must include at least one other person. Sometimes reconciliation includes others as well, such as pastors, mediators, and counselors. When I’m working on reconciliation, of course I do my own interior work, but I must also cooperate with the larger work that involves others’ schedules, personal difficulties, and needs. I may feel a burning desire to have a discussion immediately and try to restore this friendship, but the other person has a lot going on — dealing with her teenager, pressures at work, or health problems — and she simply cannot enter such a heavy conversation yet. My loved one may want to reconcile now and move back home, but I know that until she has received professional help for her substance abuse or mental-health problems, such a move would be a mistake and likely result not in reconciliation but a bigger mess. Reconciliation is as complicated as the people involved, and it can require more time and patience than forgiveness because of all the moving pieces. Another huge factor in reconciliation is the inclusion — or, intrusion — of other friends and family members. Additional people can provide strength, encouragement, and wisdom. They can also provide more opportunities for argument, miscommunication, and flawed strategies.
 

A few years ago, The Nat’l Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) published an insightful study, "Forgiveness: Theory, Research and Practice":

• A major point is that “Forgiveness will be the key area of psychotherapy in the 21st century.”

• Forgiveness can be “one way to reduce conflict and hostility, as well as to promote understanding and respect…to diminish unresolved hurt and pain that burdens many…”

• In so many parts of the world there are generations of family bitterness that fester from one generation to the next, producing endless strife, conflicts and wars.…i.e., tribal hatreds in the Mid-East and Africa.

• Forgiveness begins the process to initiate healing, not just of the mind, heart and soul, but of the body, as well.
   

Rabbi Joshua Liebman (“Inner Health”) writes,
“Prophetic religion throughout the ages has stressed the need for forgiveness and tolerance. Dynamic psychology now supplements this insight by teaching us that we can achieve inner health only thru forgiveness – forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves. We must cease tormenting ourselves when we do not achieve the absolute in life.”

Rev. George MacDonald said,
“…It may be an infinitely less evil to murder a person than to refuse to forgive a person. The former may be an act of a moment of passion; but the latter is one’s heart’s choice. It is spiritual murder, the worst, to hate, to brood over feeling that excludes, that kills the image, the idea of the hated.”
Consider carefully: One’s heart’s Choice.

An unknown author penned a brilliant thought:
“To forgive is to be strong enough to excuse another; to give the benefit of the doubt, and to really believe that the person is bigger than his or her actions.

"To forgive is to grow and to allow oneself to be forgiven is to grow too, into maturity of love and the reality that we share in God’s love when we can forgive and be forgiven.”

Traditionally, conversion is discussed on 3 levels…Conversion of mind, heart and will.

• Forgiveness necessitates, I think, a need for a 4th level of conversion essential to bring about wellness – conversion to courage, to action, to do something.

• Forgiveness also involves beginning the process of healing in yourself and the other person.

• Forgiveness means to release another, to give up our power-play by keeping something we can hold over another.

• Forgiveness is to take one’s thumb off of another, so to speak, and grant him/her freedom. Such forgiveness is difficult; it is costly, for it means that the offended one resolves the hurt by love and releases the offender without making him/her suffer.

"It is not some mystical, hard-to-believe aspect of the Christian faith, but it is something built into the fabric of human relationships. Scarcely a day goes by but that each of us needs to extend this kind of forgiveness in some degree to another, and to receive such forgiveness from another."
Augsburger, M. S., and Ogilvie, L. J. (1982). Matthew (Vol. 24, p. 18). Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Inc.

We read from Gospel of St. Matthew (6:14-15 NAB):
“If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.”

And, St. John Chrysostom once said,
“Nothing makes us so like God as our readiness to forgive the wicked and wrongdoer.”

Selichot Prayers are penitential prayers recited in preparation for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. The "Thirteen Attributes of God" are a set of divine qualities revealed to Moses in Exodus 34:6–7 after the sin of the Golden Calf. They emphasize God’s mercy, compassion, and forgiveness, offering a framework for reconciliation and divine grace.

Here are the Thirteen Attributes as traditionally understood:
“The 13 Attributes of God”
by Rabbi Dina Rosenberg

1. God is merciful before a person sins.
2. God is merciful after a person sins.
3. God is divine power and kindness.
4. God is compassionate, showing deep mercy.
5. God is gracious, granting blessings even undeserved.
6. God is slow to anger, patient with human failings.
7. God is abundant in kindness and love.
8. God is truthful and faithful.
9. God is preserving kindness for thousands of generations.
10. God is forgiving intentional sins.
11. God is forgiving rebellious sins.
12. God is forgiving unintentional sins.
13. God is cleansing and purifying those who repent.

Symbols for Selichot: Rams horn (shofar), white torah cover, Tashlikh: This ritual, performed on the first day of Rosh Hashanah, involves symbolically casting away sins by throwing bread crumbs into a flowing body of water. Generated in GeminiAI

The left border image was generated in M365 CoPilot symbolizing God's mercy and grace flowing from the Cross that will break chains of sin, and heal broken hearts.