Advice for All on New Yearís Day

Ann Landers

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Let this coming year be better than all the others. Vow to do some of the things youíve always wanted to do but couldnít find the time.

  • Call up a forgotten friend. Drop an old grudge, and replace it with some pleasant memories.

  • Share a funny story with someone whose spirits are dragging. A good laugh can be very good medicine.

  • Vow not to make a promise you donít think you can keep.

  • Pay a debt.

  • Give a soft answer.

  • Free yourself of envy and malice.

  • Encourage some youth to do his or her best. Share your experience, and offer support. Young people need role models.

  • Make a genuine effort to stay in closer touch with family and good friends.

  • Resolve to stop magnifying small problems and shooting from the lip. Words that you have to eat can be hard to digest.

  • Find the time to be kind and thoughtful. All of us have the same allotment: 24 hours a day. Give a compliment. It might give someone a badly needed lift.

  • Think things through. Forgive an injustice. Listen more. Be kind.

  • Apologize when you realize you are wrong. An apology never diminishes a person. It elevates him.

  • Donít blow your own horn. If youíve done something praiseworthy, someone win notice eventually.

  • Try to understand a point of view that is different from your own. Few things are 100 percent one way or another.

  • Examine the demands you make on others.

  • Lighten up. When you feel like blowing your top, ask yourself, "Will it matter a week from today?"

  • Laugh the loudest when the joke is on you.

  • The sure way to have a friend is to be one. We are all connected by our humanity, and we need each other.

  • Avoid malcontents and pessimists. They drag you down and contribute nothing.

  • Donít discourage a beginner from trying something risky. Nothing ventured means nothing gained. Be optimistic. The can-do spirit is the fuel that makes things go.

  • Go to war against animosity and complacency.

  • Express your gratitude. Give credit when itís dueóand even when it isnít. It will make you look good.

  • Read something uplifting. Deep-six the trash. You wouldnít eat garbageówhy put it in your head?

  • Donít abandon your old-fashioned principles. They never go out of style.

  • When courage is needed, ask yourself, "If not me, who? If not now, when?"

  • Take better care of yourself. Remember, youíre all youíve got. Pass up that second helping. You really donít need it. Vow to eat more sensibly. Youíll feel better and look better, too.

  • Donít put up with secondhand smoke. Nobody has the right to pollute your air or give you cancer. If someone says, "This is a free country," remind him or her that the country may be free, but no person is free if he has a habit he canít control.

  • Return those books you borrowed. Reschedule that missed dental appointment. Clean out your closet. Take those photos out of the drawer and put them in an album. If you see litter on the sidewalk, pick it up instead of walking over it.

  • Give yourself a reality check. Phoniness is transparent, and it is tiresome. Take pleasure in the beauty and the wonders of nature. A flower is Godís miracle.

  • Walk tall, and smile more. Youíll look 10 years younger.

  • Donít be afraid to say, "I love you." Say it again. They are the sweetest words in the world.

  • If you have love in your life, consider yourself blessed, and vow to make this the best year ever.


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