William Burkert, ST and Loughlan Sofield, ST
Human Development, Vol. 7, # 2, p. 43
"The gifts of each and every member of Christs body are being called forth. Yet
there is resistance within many persons to discovering and taking responsibility for their
The first step in assisting people to identify their
gifts is to help them become aware of the obstacles that are blocking them from
acknowledging and developing their gifts.
Five common reasons for avoiding an appreciation of
ones giftedness are:
False humility. Many have been brainwashed
into avoiding praise of our good qualities and abilities. Thus, many deny their
Humility is truth. All persons, beginning in childhood, should be taught to
understand that God has blessed them in unique ways and taught to praise and thank God for
We believe a gift needs to be spectacular and
unique. With such an expectation, we often overlook ordinary gifts,
i.e., listening, evoking laughter and mirth, making people feel welcomed or at ease. While
looking for the sparkle and pizzazz of spectacular talents, we ignore our simple gifts
that enrich human life.
Assuming that if one has a specific gift, everyone
else must have it too.
Envying other people is a block to seeing
ones own giftedness. More time is spent wanting what others have than in
appreciating and using the gifts one has received.
The final deterrent is rooted in the many fears
that surface when we are challenged to discover our giftedness. The principal fear is
that if we acknowledge certain gifts, someone will challenge us to use them. Another fear
is of becoming over-committed and overwhelmed."